I test my cat’s love

I test my cat’s love


If you ask a non-cat person why they don’t
like cats, they’ll most likely say that either they’re
allergic or that cats are too… indifferent. I mean, do they even want to be your pet? I grew up with dogs and so didn’t have a
great deal of exposure to cats, but… they always seemed to scurry out of the room
whenever I walked into a friend’s house and they just didn’t seek out the attention
like you might see with a dog. So unsurprisingly, many people give cats the
reputation for being… kind of distant and cold. And I’m not gonna lie, so did I. That is, until I got Bill and Loki. These two just completely demolished what
I thought about cats. They’re social, affectionate, loyal… And they always want attention. And they show it in not-very-subtle ways. They’re about the closest thing that I have
to a kid, which got me wondering: Can cats really love you? Well, I wanna test that. First we need to answer the age-old question: What is love?
(echos of “love”) What is love?
(echos of “love”) Huh. What is-
(echos of “love”) Ahhhhh Love comes in various shapes and sizes and
there’s a big difference between loving your partner, loving your parents,
and loving the Princess Bride. Inconceivable! So can cats feel love? Of course, there’s plenty of defenders online
who say, OF COURSE CATS FEEL LOVE CATS ARE THE BEST. MY CAT LOVES ME MORE THAN MY OWN CHILDREN! But cats probably don’t have the same conscious
capacity to love like humans. And let’s not even talk about cats vs dogs
in terms of who can love you more, I mean Obviously… HOW DARE YOU! – CATS AND DOGS ARE TOTALLY DIFFERENT!
– CATS CHOSE TO DOMESTICATE THEMSELVES. Why are we even talking about this? When you look up the definition of love, you
get just a ton of results. For example, “The object of admiration.” Now, I’m not really sure that Bill and Loki
have the capacity to see me as an object, so that’s not quite right. How about, “A sexual passion or desire”? No, that’s not it. How about A zero score in tennis… Oh, this one sounds more right. Alright, “a strong affection for another or
a warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion.” So now we’re headed in the right direction. That sounds about right in terms of how I
think my cats might feel about me. The relationship between a cat and their owner
is probably most similar to a baby’s love for their parent. And in psychology, if we’re talking about
love, babies, and parents, we’re almost certainly talking about attachment. Attachment is the deep emotional bond between
a baby and their caregiver. And it has undoubtedly influenced your development. And may even affect you now. See, after you’re born, you start to connect
with the person who provides most of your comfort,
affection, and food. Now, some folks believe that we started doing
this because it’s an evolutionary advantage. Babies are pretty useless, so in prehistoric
times, forming a strong bond with a caregiver meant they’d be provided for and they’d
be more likely to survive than babies who don’t. But of course, not all parents are good at
parenting. So if the caregiver is abusive or aloof or
somehow shakes the trust in that relationship, well, then the baby will adjust and learn
maladaptive behaviors that help them get their needs met. So, depending on how well your caregiver provides
physical or emotional support as a baby, that will change how you attach to your caregiver
and how you view the world around you. And this is what we call your “attachment
style”. In the 1970s, psychologist Mary Ainsworth
noticed these differences and realized that not all attachments are created equal. So she wondered, why is it that some children
grow up and feel safe to explore the world while others seem afraid to venture far from their parents and they act irrationally to stressful situations? Well, to study this, Ainsworth developed an
iconic experiment called the Strange Situation Procedure. And I swear we’re gonna get back to cats. I just need to talk about this first for it
all to make sense about what I’m doing. The Strange Situation is pretty simple. First, a baby and caregiver walk into an unfamiliar
room. In this case, a playroom set up by the experimenters
that has lots of toys. After a minute of just those two in the room,
a stranger walks in and sits down. A few minutes later, the stranger tries to
interact with the child. Shortly after, the caregiver leaves the room, leaving just the child and stranger in the room together. After about three minutes, the caregiver comes
back. After that, the stranger leaves the room and
gives the caregiver and child a few more minutes of play time. After that, the caregiver exits once more,
leaving the child in the room by themselves. A few minutes later, the stranger enters the
room and tries to interact with the child. Finally, the caregiver returns and picks up
the child. So simple, and yet you can immediately notice
differences in how infants react based on their attachment to
their parent. This procedure helped identify four distinct
attachment styles: Secure, anxious-avoidant, anxious-ambivalent,
and disorganized attachment. In Ainsworth’s study, she found that securely
attached children will freely explore the environment as long as the caregiver is present. And they’ll sort of use the caregiver as like
a “home base” to return to for comfort. They will interact with the stranger when
the caregiver is there, are visibly upset when the caregiver leaves. However, they’re able to be comforted and
seem happy when the caregiver returns. About 70% of all children have a secure attachment. In anxious-avoidant attachment, the child
will avoid or ignore the caregiver. They seem to emotionally retreat when the
caregiver leaves or returns. And they don’t really explore their environment
either. Likewise, the stranger has little impact on
their behavior, regardless of where the caregiver is. When the caregiver tries to pick them up at
the end, they seem distant and may even move away. In anxious-ambivalent, or also called anxious-resistant
attachment, the child becomes distressed and clingy when
the stranger enters, even before the caregiver leaves. And then when the caregiver does exit the
room, they become really upset. And when the parent returns, the child will
approach the parent, and then they’ll reject any sort of comfort
that the parent tries to offer. Additionally, children with this attachment
style seem resentful or unusually passive when the caregiver comes
back. Finally, the disorganized attachment style
was identified later on in 1990 by Mary Main, who was actually a colleague
of Ainsworth’s. In this style, children show a sort of an
inconsistent reaction to separation by switching between wanting to be close to
the caregiver and avoidance. Likewise, they seem to be dazed or disoriented
after the caregiver comes back. So if I’ve done my job right as a parent,
I can expect my child to have a secure attachment. And if they have a secure attachment, then
that means that they express and receive love in the appropriate
way, they’re able to develop coping skills for
dealing with stressful situations, and grow up to be confident, well-adjusted
people. …hopefully. But what about as a cat parent? Finally we’re getting back to cats! Back to cats! Well, a study published in Current Biology
in August 2019 wanted to know whether cats express that same level of affection
and devotion to their owners. So they conducted a study similar to Ainsworth’s
Strange Situation Procedure and found that..yup! Cats do form attachments. And even better, they express the same distinct
attachment styles that we see in infants. And at similar rates, with about 68% of cats
being securely attached. So I had to wonder… Are Bill and Loki securely attached? Only one way to find out. It was time to put my cats to the test. We adopted Bill and Loki from the Humane Society
when they were both around 6 months old. We don’t know much about what they experienced
before then. All we were told was that Bill came from an
overcrowded home and that Loki was a stray. Both cats are generally social and snuggly,
but Loki is pretty easily startled And Bill is… Well, Bill is needy. But despite the unknown confounding factors
from kittenhood, I think I’ve been able to foster a healthy,
secure bond. So I decided to replicate the same methodology
as the study. They used an abbreviated Strange Situation
Test called the Secure Base Test and it goes like this. Step 1: Owner and cat enter an unfamiliar
room. Step 2: Owner and cat spend two minutes in
the room together with the owner sitting in the middle of the
room. Step 3: Owner exits the room leaving the cat
alone for two minutes. Step 4: Owner re-enters the room and cat and
owner reunite. We’ll be doing our study in this small room
here. Let me give you a wide shot. Neither of the cats have been in this room
and I sort of purposefully picked A small room because, first off, it’ll be
easier to observe their behaviors. But also because it’ll limit the number of
distractions that may get in the way of our results. Now I sort of anticipate that, regardless
of the cat’s attachment style, when I leave the room, they will be visibly distressed. And that might include behaviors like a lot
of yowling or meowing, pacing, salivating, pawing or staying near the door… But, when I come back in the room, if the
cat is securely attached, then they will come up to me for comfort,
and then once they receive it, continue exploring the room around them. If they’re insecurely attached, well then
we might see any number of behaviors including excessively staying near me and seeking out
attention. Avoiding me altogether and staying on the
other side of the room. Or this sort of back-and-forth where they
approach, looking for attention, and then walk away. Like they don’t know what they want. I don’t know what to expect, but enough talk. Let’s go do this. Okay, so as per procedure, I entered the room
with each cat, open the carrier, and sat down in the middle
of the room. I tried to be as consistent as I could with
both cats because… ya know, gotta get those reliable results. And as you can see, Bill and Loki each start
to explore the room. And just sniff around and see what it’s all
about. You can see how they’re sort of using me as
a “home base” and if we were to track their movement, you
can see how they kind of ping pong from me to other parts of the room. Just really interesting stuff. Okay, now it’s time for me to leave. This is by far the worst part. As soon as I go, both cats are immediately
distressed. It was really difficult. I was just outside the door, but was hard staying out there for the whole two minutes
while listening to them yowl inside. Finally, I came back inside after the two
minutes were up. And this is where the real observation starts. So, let’s take a look at each, one by one. So with Loki, I came back into the room and
he seemed immediately relieved. He stopped yowling and, after getting a few
pets, a little bit of affirmation, he has returned to exploring the room and
this is what we like to see. He’s easily comforted, all is right in the
world, and he’s able to cope with the stress he
just experienced, so… good job Loki. Carry on. With Bill, let’s see what happens. He was yelling up a storm when I was gone. I came back in and… he stopped yelling. That’s a good sign. And he comes up for attention, that’s also
good. But now this is interesting. I sat there for quite a while, waiting for
Bill to get comfortable again and start exploring, but… it never happened in the entire two minutes. I even let it go longer just to see what would
happen. And instead, you can see how he sticks near
me. He keeps rubbing against me and won’t go
more than a foot away from me. So even though he has plenty of space, plenty
of things to explore and sniff at, he seems like he’s been spooked and I could
imagine he’s thinking that if he moves too far away from me, I might
leave him again. So, poor Bill. So, there you have it. It appears that Loki is securely attached, and Bill…oh poor Bill. It appears that Bill has an anxious-ambivalent
attachment style, which makes him more clingy than usual. In the original study, they actually took
the cats who had an insecure attachment style and enrolled them in a six-week socialization
and training program to see if the owners could change their cats’ attachment
style. Turns out….not so much. So while humans can change their attachment
style through new experiences and therapy, your cat’s attachment style will stay relatively
stable. You can do this experiment with your cats
if you want to. And I’m pretty sure it works with dogs, too. So let me know down in the comments what your
pet’s attachment style is. It’s amazing how much more emotional these
little guys are than we give them credit for. Anyway, thanks for watching. Until next time, I’m Micah…think about
it.

100 Comments on “I test my cat’s love”

  1. I feel my cat has attachment issues. Lashes out randomly. Dosent like new ppl will finally get use to the ppl in my life but it takes time. She's very protective over her human mommy. And if I'm playing wrestling with someone and she sees it she will turn on that person I didn't tech her this. I don't allow scratching others or bitting.
    If I'm gone for few days on vacation and if someone she know is not with her it traumatizing to her. Or if I'm gone over night at a friend's she becomes clingy and won't leave my side.. she loves snuggle with me at night and in the day and I call that our time and she hates not getting that time in with like she want to. Or in summer letting her out on patio gives me my time to get ready for work without her attach to me the whole time I know she's smart and realized when it's time to go to work for mommy.
    I'm trying new things to help her food with the detachment issue. Having tv on and lights in certain rooms and night lights in other rooms. I can't even shut the door to the other room even though she had everything she needs. I cover the door with blankets and she tries tear door apart to get my attention.
    Chloe is ani-detachment order . I baby her too much and she acts like my child and she's scared to lose me if I go outside to take Tash out the first thing that happened and still dose is she meow at me from the balcony or if she hear my voice at the neighbors next store she will start meowing at me

  2. I know they didn't use it as a comfort source, but to be completely sure I would have taken the carrier with me when I left. As it could smell like home it may have been a source of comfort. I honestly wonder what my cat's style is. He flew from Japan to England I hate to think about him being stressed the whole time. But he's always so confident I am so proud of him.

  3. You don't think your cats have "The capacity to see (you) as an object of admiration?" I would put this before most other complex kinds of love. My cats look at me pleadingly when they notice it's cold rainy or snowy outside. I am convinced my abilities are so mysterious to them that they assume I must be responsible for the outdoor weather. And why not? I can turn off the vacuum. They are also possessive of me as my animal owners and it's hard to be possessive without seeing living things as also possible things or objects–cats scent mark you by rubbing you just like trees and other inanimate things and other living things, including other cats. Whatever other love I ascribe to them, it seems extremely likely that I am consistently an object of bewilderment, comfort, proud ownership and admiration for my ability to produce food, play time, and nearly everything else desirable for them at will.

  4. I wish these studies would think more like cats and stop measuring their very unique approach to thinking and feeling by human metrics. I think one complicating factor here is that whatever kind of attachment cats have to humans they are far more attached to place. If a cat is left in a room, they are far more aware than a child that they can't get out, and will meow at the door for that reason to achieve greater control (access to food/water/litter box), freedom and stimulation. This view toward long-term welfare and providing for ones own needs is an adult perspective, so mabe post-weening kittens really require an equivalent to an adult human attachment test, or, conversely, the test you give would be more accurate with orphened pre-weening kittens and their human adult caregiver. Also, it seems clear from cat behavior and the emphasis cats place on traversing, marking and defending their own turf issues of owned territory and space are at least as huge in their minds as their relationships to any other animal. Some cats, I think especially young ones are happy wherever their owners are, but this isn't universal and older cats tend to become more place-bound than people-bound. You'll notice this if you ever have to move with several cats, as I have. Older cats often return to their old houses over and over when under stress, even if they know the relationships and things of home are elsewhere. I my first cat, an adult, was inherited from previous owners after he just kept returning to the house his owners had left, now home to my parents. More recently, I had an old cat who showed great trauma upon moving with us and returned to our old house several blocks away many times. Eventually this only happened if he was caught in serious rain. My father would drive up in his truck to the old street and upon hearing the particular sound of his truck, Panther would crawl out from some place in the vicinity of our old residence and dutifully let Dad drive him home. The closest comparison might be a wandering person with Alzheimer's. He knew he shouldn't be there, but emotionally that was home and he couldn't fathom that that home could change location, regardless of how much he might have loved or needed us. And study of cat-human relationship needs to deal with cat-place relationship carefully first.

  5. Bill is also the less quick learner. It probably has as much to do with past trauma before you and his ability to attach to and trust you as it does to his actual intelligence. I bet cats can reattach to humans with the same extreme difficulty that adults who never atttached to their mothers can learn to fight their subconscious distrust and insecurity in the world, but it's hard enough to do with human, who we can talk with and understand on our own terms. Without a lot of careful interspecies listening, the idea that you can't re-socialize a cat that isn't owner bonded is easy to believe. And yet some adult strays, though not most, have been people-bonded, a transition that is fundamentally equivalent and even more extreme a transition, really. Kitty attachment can increase, I'm sure. But of course it's harder. Cat's know the world in different ways than we do. Reaching them and bridging that gap puts us in mysterious territory, decoding and interacting with an experience we really can't fully tap into without living in cat bodies and minds with different innate priorities, senses and ways of organizing life.

  6. Only problem with Mary Ainsworth's experiment is that, presumably, only good parents would volunteer for the experiment. As someone who grew up with an abusive mother, I vividly recall being preschool, and primary school age, and I could show more confidence with strangers than I could with my mother. I would happily play with strangers, and shut down when my mother returned.

  7. This is super interesting. I would have loved to test my cat, I just don't have easy access to a room she hasn't been in.
    Fascinating stuff though, keep it up..

  8. I would try this with my cats but they both like to hide in new places. Once they return to somewhere they are comfortable one cat will cling to my husband and I and the other cat will want some comfort then she will climb in her cat tree. The first cat is a total fraidy cat that wants to be near me or my husband like 24/7 if he didnt have his sister I dont think he would do well when my husband and I go to work

  9. OMG my cat is in my home country (DON"T ASK. THE GOVT SEPARATED US) until I can get her here, Ive been facing separation anxiety from my cat in the past 2 weeks. I'm now sobbing because I miss her so much.
    I think my cat owns me now. T-T

  10. I adopted one of my cats when he was eight years old. Whenever I leave my home, or even prepare to leave, Kahlua starts to howl. He gathers his favorite toys and offers them to me while I’m getting ready to leave, crying the whole time. When I return, I find several of his toys piled by the front door, and a few on my bed, on the side I sleep on. Generally all four of my cats are waiting for me by the front door when I return, but only one of them, a 28 pound Maine Coon, needs considerable attention after I return. The other three, including Kahlua, seem content with a few pets.

    I have an older female kitty who never seemed as anxious as the others when I left, but when I was away in Africa for a month, she spent the entire time sitting on the mantle and staring at the front door. She knew her pet sitter well, but they couldn’t get her to move for that entire month. When I returned, she literally leapt from the mantle into my arms, purring up a storm and nuzzling while licking my face like a puppy. I never thought of her as overly dependent and clingy, so I was surprised(and felt very guilty) by her reaction!

  11. I own two cats for the first time in my life. This happened after I turned 50. They are nice companions and I would never get rid of them. And they came from the SPCA as adult adoptions and we bonded.

  12. I loved this! I actually remember that when I moved into our new house, I sort of did this experiment in a sense. Both are secure types! It's incredible just how much they retain, cats are my favorite pets truly (:

  13. În afara deșeurilor menajere, pentru care trebuie găsite soluții de reciclare, este importanta și reciclarea instalațiilor de răcire care funcționează cu substanțe sau gaze nocive, cum ar fi frigiderele, și aerele condiționate, care utilizează freon, aparate electrocasnice și electronice pe baza de baterii, care de cele mai multe ori ajung în același loc cu gunoiul menajer și care oxidează, devenind cat se poate de toxice pentru mediul înconjurător.

  14. Yay……….you talk way too much. It would have been better to talk about the cats first, THEN the babies………I almost clicked off because of boredom and did NOT see any connection.

  15. That was an interesting experiment, made me think about what I have experienced with my cat. She’s about 13yo now. For the last 8y I’ve been living abroad and I brought her with me (as everyone should, there’s no excuse to abandon a pet) and in 3 occasions I have left on a sorta prolonged vacation (about 4 weeks each time) & left her home cause she stresses too much on voyage. Rather leave her in her own safe place with 24h care by my landlord who lives downstairs & she quite loves. 1st time I came back from vacation she hid and avoided me for about 5/6h & stayed skittish for almost a week. 2nd time back from vacation she actually met me at the door meowing up a storm & was really clingy for a few days. 3rd time was a mixed response, initially avoiding me and after a couple hours warming up to clingy for a couple days.

  16. I grew up with dogs. Later on in life I took in 2 cats. They were the best. One lived until she was over 19 1/2 years the other lived until he was over 17 years, he was a stray so I was never sure what age he was. Loved them both and miss them with tears in my eyes, just like the dog that loved me when I was a child. xx xx xx

  17. I involuntary did a test similar to one of my cats. He used to be an outdoor cat, until he was hit by a car, picked up by a stranger and rushed to E.R. Once at the E.R, he wouldnt stand up for the veterinarian, and he was avoindant. When I arrived, he immediately stood up, meowled and asked for me to pick him up. Not until I was there, could they do a proper exam of his injuries. Once I left (he had to stay the night), he went back to the same state to me prior being there. When I came to pick him up, I got an earful of my betrayal.

    In conclusion.
    Attached and loves me.

  18. I'll admit … when you said you felt it when they were crying while you were behind the door I was kinda surprised. Firstly society thinks that cats aren't really a man's favorite animal and secondly men don't feel empathy towards animals as much as women do. My dad hated cats and he was hypermasculine..he hated small dogs too. Thanks for expressing yourself freely

  19. I know my baby girl loves me. She gets mad at me on Wednesdays. I go to work all day, then go to class until 9:30pm. I walk in the door and there she is, with the glare and week meow she has. I grab her and let her know I missed her all day. She purrs and we are okay again.

  20. You can't apply the same test to both children and cats. It doesn't just work like that. The more the cat grows up, the more they're spooked by new environments. I've brought kittens home and they've immediately settled and began feeling at home in their new surroundings. I've also brought home 2, 5 and 7 seven year old cats and in the most extreme of cases, one of them stayed under the sofa for the best part of a week. They are a lot more aware of change in surroundings than a child would be. The child in the test is kept occupied by toys. The fact that they're not at home isn't even remotely relevant. But you could have toys, food, distractions etc and a cat will still get spooked in a new environment. Repeat the test but where the cats feel most secure. We see umpteenth number of videos on YouTube of owners recording their cats when they would leave the house. When a cat is living as the only pet, they nearly always go thru a period when they'd be calling out, pacing back and forth and or feeling anxious when the owner is out. This sort of behaviour is limited / pretty much non existent if a cat has a companion, regardless of whether it is a cat or not. For me, a cat shows attachment when it comes when you call for it. Also. Cats will call for you if you close the door to them to your room. They know you're in there and they can clearly indicate they want to see you. I've seen nervous cats, cats that are going thru stress or even those who are scared of strangers. But I've never seen a cat that doesn't show attachment. Just like with a child or human being, the attachment differs and it isn't always instant. But to take a cat to a completely new and alien location is not a way to test their attachment to you. The second cat was secure. If it wasn't, it would've continued to call out, it might've scurried back into the carrier box or even tried to keep itself as low to the ground as possible. But just as with a human, the second cat might've required a little more time to become comfortable again to then explore its surroundings.

  21. I have 4 cats , 1 is 7 he is the oldest he does not like me but love my husband we took him after his owners moved away and left him so I dnt think he would do anything if I left the room, I have 2 brother cats , they are very clingy zapp clings to me for dear life when ever he goes to the vet he always like to sit with me and kif is so nervous he hides when people come in the house I reckon he wouldn’t even come out the carry case if we took him to a room he doesn’t know he cries if his brother is away from him for to long but tends to hide in cat carry case we got them as kittens so not sure why kif is so nervous. He was even like that the day we got them kif hid and zapp lay on my lap . The other cat we adopted last November he’s around 5 years old he loves attention but prefers my husband over me aswell. He is so confident he is the boss of the house and the day we got him he just acted like he had lived with us all his life and he wants pets from everyone even strangers he only has 3 legs but he still destroys everything in the house lol

  22. Dogs are more like slaves trained to follow every command that’s why I like more cats they’re independent and if they like you u know it’s special

  23. I find Loki to have the same reaction with my cat Ollie. Sadly from what I understand Ollie had been kept in a room with other cats and only had human contact once a day.

  24. Well i definitely have one desoriented cat..she can be such a bitch but then is the cutest thing ever the next day..i still love her a lot tho❤️

  25. Do you have suggestions on how to get your cat to trust and be comfortable around you? My colleague gave me his siamese because the cat was being attacked by his other cats. He used to be the alpha male but lost his place to a newcomer. It's been over a month and still, the cat would just hide underneath the table and scurry into another place to avoid me.

  26. This does not always take into account the impact that cats own parents have on them.

    There is a law in Sweden that minimum age for kittens to leave their parent is 12 weeks. No younger. Because it was found that kittens forced to leave the security of their parents before developing a healthy desire to do so are way more likely to have maladaptive behaviours.

    It is easily observed in kittens that they practice healthy attachment when learning to explore but may very easily become anxious when the source of comfort isn't there anymore too soon.

    I don't have the resources to check my own cats attachment right now but it's an interesting thought to keep for later

  27. I don't think "parent-child" (more of our own imposed personification) is the right analogy/model for owner-cat relationship, and we shouldn't treat cats like our babies, or dress them, or whatever, nor are they perpetual baby cats (i.e., they become adults). I think cats see us as another member of their pride, and an all-important alpha member, since we provide the means of sustaining life and protection in an out-of-their-natural-habitat, domesticated world. We should reenter the pride with familial greeting, and perhaps depart with familial farewell. There is also instinctive play and mutual providing of comfort and a need to be part of the group, for the well-adjusted cat, that was respectfully raised as a cat. They are extremely social, and can learn commands for activities they are initially inclined toward as an individual. I would also always acquire cats in pairs, in order to enhance that social aspect and fulfill their own interspecies needs. Two cats are also more easy to care for than one cat. They provide ongoing presence among themselves when the owner is away even.

  28. I don't like how you devide the attachment styles into healthy and unhealthy without questioning your assumptions. Normal does not neccesarily equal healthy. Ditto for abnormal / unhealthy.

    You need to justify your assumptions a bit more. Otherwise good video.

  29. I have two young cats, brother and sister, who just love me and I love them. Besides, they look after each other. One will tell me when they want to be fed and will then look for the other to let them know there is food. They sleep on my bed every night. They are my family and see me as part of their family. Animals don't tell lies. If they don't like you then they will let it be known.

  30. Wow I'm gonna try that experiment as I'm pretty sure my cats are 1 of each,,same as yours but I guess I'll not know until it's tested!! Cheers for sharing and "meow" to all 3 of u…👍🏼✨🐱🐾🐈

  31. They do, I had to put my fur baby in someone's else's care, for his protection, and I can attest to my cats attachment to me, he really does love me 😁

  32. One of my furchildren has some pretty bad separation anxiety. I can't take either of them to the vet. He will scream at people in a way I've never heard from a cat. The other is still semi-feral, and only trusts me. I also have severe social anxiety. I have always wondered if that is what causes them to have such a hard time.

  33. My cat follows me out to the house gate when I go to the grocery, when I come back she is there waiting for me & then follows me into the house. She's HAPPY when I arrive & meows alot then come rub herself to my legs as I walk or stop to talk to her.

  34. Let me, as it were, throw the cat amongst the pigeons, and say that cats have tiny brains that limit their intelligence to seeking food, warmth, play (in the domesticated form of hunting) and safety. That's about it. They simply are unaware of anything other than satisfying their own needs without any regard to reciprocity. They are, of course, very decorative, and lovely for that.

  35. This is a really interesting video. It makes me wonder what kind of attachment my cats have developed in the month since we got them from the RSPCA.
    Can anyone answer a question for me: what does it mean when a cat wags its tail like a dog would when the dog is happy and pleased to see you?
    My eldest cat is a very weird soul, she behaves very strangely.
    Both the cats we rescued (a 2 year old colour point cat and her kitten whom is around 6 months old now) display very strange behaviour, they want love and affection but seem reluctant to receive it, they'll come up for a stroke but they seem to get spooked when it starts, they walk away. Both will roll onto their backs to receive a belly rub but it only lasts a few seconds before they run away as if there was a loud noise that scared them.
    I'd love to be able to read their minds.

  36. I agree they do bond. I have alot of cats but 1 of my cats will run and hide if a stranger comes in. Only to come out when they have gone. But she is totally on my knee as soon as I sit down.

  37. You forgot the toys. Any animal will be distressed if left alone with nothing to do

    Btw, what should bill explore in a 5 square meter room?

  38. Your cats are beautiful, and happy and contented. It's obvious even with your insecure cat that he trusts you and sees you as his safe place when he needs additional comfort <3

  39. Stop saying “their owners”. Can you own a black man? An animal doesn’t exist to be your toy or product to be consumed.

  40. I think it's because a lot of cats growth and learning happens in the first 6-8 weeks from what I have heard. Like it's really hard to make a feral kitten at 12 weeks and older friendly and happy around people. Any older than that and it's not likely to happen at all. They can still learn, my cat is still learning to sit when asked at 7 years and does so for the most part… It's always fascinating though.
    I'm not sure this is a one to one comparison here either. It would be nice to see a little bit larger of a room and some cat toys for them to look at.

  41. I literally laughed out loud @ the what is love part? Amazing. That movie is the ish btw. It's one of my all time faves to be exact. Every energy can love, no matter what level of existence we're referring to. Every experience is always different though. The examples of children is missing at least one type, children with secure attachments, who still avoid the stranger in general, no matter if the caregiver is there or not, because they're uncomfortable with the unknown individual who has now appeared. I loved your study on cats. I think you did a fantastic job on this. Thanks for sharing this with us. We have learned something form this. Have a fantastic weekend with your family!

  42. You hypothesis is somewhat sound, you should understand guardianship transcends "feelings", you cannot attribute humans feelings to animals. We know dogs have the pack mentality, cats do also, way less, but not to humans. Not comparable with attributing human psychology to animals, just behaviors.. You should look into their eyes, they will let you know how they feel about you… You want to find out about cats? Just live with and love them…

  43. imho this human test cannot be applied to cats. We are social creatures, but cats are not instinctively social. At all. The only reason 2 male cats in a home like to be together is that they are neutered and their testosterone aggression is halted.

  44. My cat comes running to the door everytime he hears it and if you go to the bathroom you're gonna have a cat in your lap lol. My old cat stopped eating and got depressed when I left her with a sitter to go on vacation. Cats do care, they're just more independent.

  45. People who don’t like cats because they’re “unfriendly” just want a pet that will kiss their ass and fragile egos like a dog. They can’t take that there’s an animal who has a mind that serves its own needs, you know, kinda like a human. Dogs are loved because they’re doting. Humans love getting their asses kissed.

  46. This, among many many other reasons, is why animal abuse is so abhorrent to me. They are so emotionally sensitive and they really do know and care what is going on.

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